The end of a relationship does not always happen only in the physical world. Often, memories, feelings and emotional patterns remain present, making it difficult to open up to a new cycle. Regardless of belief, some symbolic rituals can help mark this closure, promoting a feeling of lightness and renewal. The most important thing is that they are carried out with the intention of taking care of yourself, and not interfering in the other person’s life.

Below, check out 4 rituals to get your ex out of your life for good!

1. Write a farewell letter

Take a sheet of paper and write down everything you I would like to tell your ex: sorrows, learning, gratitude and everything that is still stuck in the heart. When you’re done, read the letter one last time, then consciously tear it up or discard it. The objective is not to send the message, but to symbolize that that chapter has come to an end.

2. Take a herbal bath for renewal

An herbal bath can represent a moment of emotional cleansing. After the hygiene bath, pour a warm infusion of rosemary, basil and lavender from the neck down, remembering that each drop takes away the weight of memories and makes room for new experiences. As you do this, focus on cultivating peace, self-esteem, and new beginnings.

3. Renew the energy of the environment

Objects, photographs and gifts can keep emotions linked to the past alive. Organize the room, remove what no longer makes sense to keep and open doors and windows to renew the air. If you wish, light some rosemary, lavender or sandalwood incense to create an atmosphere of fresh start. This change in environment also helps reinforce the decision to move forward.

4. Light a candle for yourself

Instead of directing your energy towards the relationship that ended, make a ritual focused on yourself. Light a white candle in a safe, quiet place and reflect on everything you want to experience from now on. Think about self-love, balance, happiness and healthy relationships. Remain silent for a few minutes, breathing deeply and imagining a new phase beginning.

The real ritual is choosing to move forward

No ritual replaces the time needed to work out the end of a relationship, but symbolic gestures can help strengthen the decision to end a cycle. More than forgetting someone, the objective is to recover your own energy, recognize the learning that was left and make room for new opportunities. After all, the most important person to occupy your heart will always be you.